Thursday, March 3, 2011


I am a passionate person.  It's just the way I'm wired.  And yes, there have been times I have allowed indecision to get the best of me. However, I do believe indecision is different than ambivalence.

This is just my opinion and since it's my blog I can say what I want, but to me an ambivalent person lacks passion.  They lack courage.  And they lack a sense of integrity.

I have been guilty of dragging my feet when I've had to make certain decisions.  That was probably due to fear and worrying if I was doing the right thing regarding certain circumstances.  Along with my passion, I am also a great worrier. Again, this is just the way I'm wired.

But if I had been ambivalent, I never would have made any choices at all.  I would have stayed on the fence long after night fell.  I don't stay on fences very often.  I ultimately decide what I want and when I do make that decision, I go after what I want.  It's called setting goals.  It's being passionate.  It's having drive and motivation to achieve your dreams and desires in this life.

I have no patience for ambivalence.  It's the cowardly way out. These people are too afraid to make a commitment, to see things through, so they do nothing.   Ambivalent people have no lackluster and they cause great frustration to all they come in contact with because they simply will not get off the fence.

The common expression to use for ambivalent people is "shit or get off the pot."  There's no other way to say it.  It's blunt but it clearly lets them know what they need to do.

So to all the ambivalent people out there--do something.  Anything.  Don't just stand there like a deer in the headlights.  And if your ambivalence gets in my way, I'm running you over.  I'm moving forward.  I'm moving on.  With or without you.  You'd better shit... or get off the pot.


James said...

I wholeheartedly agree! There is no time in one's life for ambivalence and it does no one any good to fill your life with ambivalent people. You, my dear Debbie, are the least ambivalent person I know. You are a mover and a need to clutter your life with people who aren't on board with you!

Lisa said...

It's my -party- blog, and I will say what I want to...

I know what you are saying. I much prefer a person with an opinion to one who will never commit to anything, lest they should offend someone. I mean, you must think something, right?

Of course, there are those times where I may not have an opinion on some issue. Maybe I don't know enough about it, or don't care. Sometimes it is just laziness, I'll admit! But it is exhausting exploring all the sides on EVERY issue and deciding on some opinion. Sometimes we need to let some things just go, and a little ambivalence can save our sanity.

Man-Man said...

I tend to procrastinate because I do not know which way to go. Finally, at the last moment, I make a decision. That seems to be how my life has been.

MikeB said...

I have some strong opinions, but I am open to listening to contrary thinking and will change my approach if I see a better way of looking at things.